Pastor Politics in Marriage... click to read.
Some things some Christians practice can be mind boggling, imagine the case of a Lady who was being approached by a young man for marriage. Each time this young man proposes to the Lady, her answer would always remain the same, which is that He must first accompany her to see her Pastor. The young man had no option but to oblige her. So on the appointed date they went to see her Pastor whom She had previously informed of the development, after His question and answer sessions to the young man, they prayed together and the Pastor asked them to pray and fast for three weeks for the Lord to give them a sign whether the marriage would be successful.
The young man had to do just that according to Him to make His would be bride happy. This Guy is a working Class young man just like the Lady in question, they are both comfortable as young people, they love each other and are ready to get married but the Lady is the problem, while Her would be Husband is a #Catholic, She is a member of one this new generation #Pentecostal Churches. She said She wanted her Pastor to first make a declaration about their proposed wedding on whether the young man was actually the man God has made for her as practiced in their Church.
First, the Pastor made overtures to the young man on his readiness to join his Church before the marriage, something the young man rejected, stating that a woman has no Church and should belong to her husband's Church. Then again the Pastor tried to make the young man hold the wedding in his Church, again the young turned down the offer, this things are happening while they were still fasting and praying and waiting for the sign from the God.
And the end of the three weeks period they went back to see the #Pastor and he said, that He is yet to get a clear message about the wedding and mandated them to a further one week prayer and fasting. The young man was unrelenting, he played along, for him, he needed no sign, he knows what he wanted and that he has found in her but for the Lady, she had accepted his proposal but needed a divine confirmation from her Pastor. After almost two months of foot dragging and Pastor this or that, the young man decided that she should either permit him to come and see her parents or forget the marriage, the Lady pleaded with him for one more final week of decision making.
Eventually the Pastor passed his verdict; "I saw a little quarrel and a divorce ahead if you marry this young man but of-course the choice is yours". The Pastor concluded. "I reject it in Jesus name was all the young man could say." the Lady clasped her hands together and shouted, "Pastor it's a lie!, then she broke down crying, refusing to be consoled by the Young Man or the Pastor, after crying for a while, she got up and walked out of the #Church without looking anybody or waiting for the the Young man, who came continue to follow her pleading and reassuring to no avail.
After that event, she refused to pick her calls and traveled out of town. About two weeks later she called the confused young man to say to him; "well, you heard what the Pastor said, so the issue of marriage is over between us but we'll still remain friends". The young man tried to plead but she switched off her phone completely. My friend took it as a man, he didn't search for long and he wedded an old acquaintance extending invitation to the Lady who refused to attend but sent congratulatory messages on phone and on #FACEBOOK.
That same year, as if it was a competition, the Lady got married too. She wedded her Church member from another branch, the guy according to her had approached her and after a few dates surprisingly proposed, she was shocked and so ran to her Pastor who in less than two weeks affirmed that the Brother is her missing rib, end of story. While my friend today is happily or maybe not too happily-who knows- married that of her Ex has crashed.
Her Church-member husband simply turned her into a punching bag, it turned out after the wedding that the guy had no real job, he had been lying all along, borrowed alot to impress the Lady and then get married to her because she was a working class and had more money. Told his friends he would pay them back with interest once he succeeds in his bid to marry the rich Lady and he sure did. He abandoned the payment of her bride price half way and out of shame the Lady had to finance it and the wedding from her purse having known that this is her missing rib. The guy just won't stop demanding for money and ofcourse the Lady had the money, the problem is that the guy wasn't ready to set up something for himself with the money the Lady kept giving.
If he is not in Lagos supposedly job hunting, he is in Abuja and ofcourse in a good hotel and the bills he accumulates gets paid by the good wife. Even when the Lady succeeds in getting good jobs for him, He spurns them, says it is too menial a job for his class of person. Too much beatings, too much bills the Lady decided that enough is enough, she called it quit not just from the marriage but also from the Church. Now she alleges that her husband had actually paid her Pastor to cancel her marriage proposal with her former would-be-husband, paving the way for himself, well that is just an allegation but the truth is that she is now divorced.
My problem is where in the #Bible is it commanded that Pastor's consent be sought before marriage is conducted? Why is your Pastor so closely related to God to the extent that he hears from HIM and you do not? If your Pastor can't teach you how to pray and your prayers would be answered why are you still there? Even Jesus Christ taught us how to pray, why must it always be your Pastor praying for you? Jesus Christ is the only way to the Father and if you can't talk to the Father through Him then you are not a Christian.
Learn to depend on Christ and not your Pastor; "1God, who at sundry times and in divers manners spake in time past unto the fathers by the prophets, 2Hath in these last days spoken unto us by his Son, whom he hath appointed heir of all things, by whom also he made the worlds;3Who being the brightness of his glory, and the express image of his person, and upholding all things by the word of his power, when he had by himself purged our sins, sat down on the right hand of the Majesty on high; 4Being made so much better than the angels, as he hath by inheritance obtained a more excellent name than they." Hebrews 1v1-4
God in the past spoke to our fathers in different ways using the Prophets, today He has spoken to us through his Son. the words of His Son and His Apostles are documented in the New Testament of the Bible. If you want to hear from God talk to Him, you have the right to, just like your Pastor, He is there to teach you how to and not to take up the role of a mediator between you and God.
Names were avoided in this story,
We wrote this in other to teach others
if it is similar to what happened to you,
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